An unexpected guest just arrived. Maybe others knew she would come but I never thought she would emerge. I thought the wedding would conclude without ever meeting her but I was wrong.
My Inner Bridezilla is here and I hate her.
According to the Internet (that trusted, truthful source) a bridezilla is a bride-to-be so focused on creating a perfect wedding that she is extremely unreasonable. Bridezillas tend to destroy everyone in their path with their demanding attitudes.
Yup. That is me.
I cried over the seating chart. I cried when my brother joked about mixing New Kids on the Block into a Bhangra song at the sangeet. I cried when I couldn’t find the right paper for the menu cards. I cried when I found out that the World Cup and a Laker playoff game are on the same day as the wedding. And you read all about me crying when I could not find a wedding lengha in India.
In my case, I am not a bridezilla because I want things to be perfect. For me it is the emotional intensity that surrounds the wedding, the fear that people will criticize me for what I am wearing or how I look and the desire for the wedding to be executed in a well-organized and fun manner.
I am hoping Bridezilla packs her bags and leaves before the wedding. She needs to go away so I can get back to savoring all the memories being created each moment between now and the big day.
It’s okay, girl! Bridezilla happens. All you can do is try to keep her sitting next to you, instead of letting her take you over. Bear in mind that weddings bring out other people’s issues too – people you would never expect to start stuff suddenly become uncooperative and demanding. On the flip side, other people will show up for you in the most surprising and wonderful ways. Don’t be too hard on yourself – Bridezilla is usually just a signal that you need to set a boundary with someone, or with yourself. Listen to whatever Bridezilla is trying to tell you, just don’t let her do the talking.
Oh!Deepika.Its Your & Vishal’s wedding day.Enough Said!Not, your Mom’s ,Not your Masis,nobody but the two of you.You certainly have the right to shed a tear over the fact that Taby thinks NKOTB is ok @ any function for YOUR wedding.Let, Bridezilla make an appearance here and there. Loving the glimpse into the New Indian Bride…
Deepika, it’s great that you’re doing this blog because when it’s all said and done, you’re going to have an awesome wedding with lots of great memories to look back on. And then, you can go back, re-read these blogs and have a lot of laughs because you’re going to think, “Why did I get so worked up over this or that, etc.” But like I’ve said before, it’s all part of the process. Just keep your eye on the prize and you’ll be just fine!
Hi Deepika,
It is yours and your Leading Man’s day. Please don’t worry about people, you have to do what you like and you are wearing your pretty lehnga because you like it, who cares about what people think or feel. in the end it is going to be a perfect day because you are not gonna care about meanless opinions. Just enjoy every moment of it for yourself and Vishal.
Deepika, you express it far more beautifully than I ever could, but all those fears and emotional intensity are completely normal. I can’t speak for all, but I totally felt all of what you expressed. There is so much pressure the bride is under, so many fears about what can go wrong. But it won’t. Your family is going to pull off an amazing day. You will be a beautiful bride. Just know that all your planning will pay off. On June 12, take a deep breath and just be PRESENT. It will be a wonderful day. xoxo
I agree with Neelu – Just let it be.
I got tipsy with one of my dearest friends last night and that sent Miss Bridezilla packing!
I wll say this the wedding is most certainly for myself and Vishal but it really is about all of the wonderful people who have chosen to share in this day with us. If we did not have so many fabulous people who loved us we would not be celebrating our union in this way.
So a thousand thank yous to everyone for helping create what is sure to be a special day!
hahaha… and it was FUN! Bridezilla is gone and we can blame it on the a-a-a-alcohol! See how many wonderful things booze can do for us??
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