The New Indian Bride

A bride-to-be with a new perspective on the modern Indian wedding.

Arrive in Style! September 29, 2010

Filed under: Groom Week,Uncategorized — The New Indian Wife @ 10:21 am

It’s Groom Week on TNIB and today it’s all about arriving in style.  Nothing in an Indian wedding is more exciting than the moment the Groom makes his first appearance.  The arrival of the baraat is the ceremonial start of the wedding day and the excitement surrounding the Groom’s arrival is palpable amongst all of the wedding guests. 

Typically, the Bride’s friends and family gather outside the wedding venue to welcome the Groom and his baraat.  How an Indian Groom arrives varies. Some may be on a white horse, some may have the dhol blazing, your friends and family may be dancing or you may choose a more modern approach.  Whatever you do, just remember to make it good.  I gotta admit that My  Leading Man knocked this one out of the park!  He arrived in a 1930′s Rolls Royce.  Not only did he look extra dashingly handsome stepping out of these vintage wheels but the car made the perfect accessory for our pre-ceremony photo shoot!

There are so many ideas on how to arrive from the simple and sleek (vintage car), ethnic traditional (white horse) to geek chic (on a segway – yes really, I have seen it!).  Why not take your own twists on this tradition and really have some fun! 

What is the most creative way you have seen a Groom and his baraat arrive?  TNIB wants to hear from you!

 

Groom Week! September 27, 2010

Filed under: Uncategorized — The New Indian Wife @ 10:41 am

It’s all brides all the time here at The New Indian Bride but not this week!  Today we switch things up to talk about the Groom.  That’s right! It is Groom Week here on TNIB and we couldn’t be more excited about what the week has in store.  

My fellow blogger at Maharani Weddings got me in the mood for this topic when she posted these fabulous photographs from the Shayamal & Bhumika show at Lakme Fashion Week.  Groom’s wear has hit new heights with this exquisite collection filled with royal and wearable looks for your Leading Man.  Maharani Weddings calls it “royal, decadent, and luxurious.”  I couldn’t agree more!   

Indian wedding groom sherwani copy  

Indian wedding, groom sherwani 2 copy 

Check out the entire post (and see other Lakme Fashion Week pictures) by Maharani Weddings at http://www.maharaniweddings.com/maharani/2010/09/bejeweled-by-shyamal-bhumika-ii.html

 

A Perfect Touch – Card Boxes! September 20, 2010

Filed under: Details,Vendors — The New Indian Wife @ 11:18 am

The New Indian Bride is excited to introduce something that is bound to be a fabulous and eye-catching addition to your wedding, specifically your wedding gift table!  Since so many Indian families tend to give the gift of cold hard cash why not include a beautiful, custom decorated card box to capture these wonderful gifts.  Marni Gold is Lead Designer and founder of Creative Custom Card Boxes.  She recently launched a line of card boxes specifically for Indian weddings and TNIB is thrilled to feature her today!

TNIB: How did you start creating wedding card boxes?

Marni: I started this business because for my own wedding I just could not find anything I liked! I did not want to burden any family member’s with having to mind the cards and gifts we received and anything I saw in the stores was tacky and didn’t blend well with my chic and fun wedding theme. I decided to make a card box for my wedding and after seeing the pictures, my bride-to-be friends of mine wanted one! My wedding planner also encouraged me to start selling them and so I did!

TNIB: Why are these perfect for Indian weddings?

Marni: The reason we wanted to create our Indian Wedding Card Boxes line in addition to the card boxes we currently make is that Indian and South Asian weddings usually have large turnout and predominately cash/monetary gifts.  The lavish designs and colors of Indian weddings, both modern and traditional do not call for a flimsy white card box from the craft store.  Our card boxes are perfect because they can be customized to the size of the event, the colors and the design!

TNIB: How much input can a bride have in the creation of her card box?
Marni: Creative Custom Card Boxes are made/based on what a bride/couple want. We want to make sure the card box meets and exceeds the expectations of our client.  We work with the client every step of the way and have been praised for our customer service.

TNIB: What unique or special touches have you incorporated into recent card boxes?

Marni: Oh there are so many!  One recent card box we designed to echo the pearl design on the bride’s wedding dress. Another sweet 16 card box was created to perfectly match aspects of the cake. Yet another card box we did has hand painted peacock feathers as well as real peacock feathers embellishing the box!

TNIB: What is the price range for your card boxes?
Marni: Creative Custom Card Boxes start at $60 for a 1 tier and go up based on design, embellishments, amount of tiers, etc.  Our Indian Wedding Card Boxes line will have a similar price structure but will include many more options including multiple colors of swarovski crystals, sumptuous fabrics, mehndi designs and more!

TNIB: I want one! How do I get started?
Marni: Brides can reach us easily at http://www.creativecustomcardboxes.com and place an order on our order page.  If they need help with the order process we are always available via email at info@creativecustomcardboxes.com
You can also see a peek of what we’re working at building towards the launch of our Indian Wedding Card Boxes line at http://www.indianweddingcardboxes.com

TNIB: anything else brides should know about card boxes?

Marni: Card boxes need not be plain white and boring.  Bring in some color and let us help you coordinate your card box with your wedding design!  Most importantly, a closed card box like ours is a safe and SECURE way to store your cards and monetary gifts from your wedding.  The card box then becomes a beautiful place to store lovely mementos after the wedding.

 

About Marni: Creative Custom Card Boxes began when Marni was planning her own wedding in 2008.  Frustrated with the gaudy, tacky or just plain expensive options she came across, she along with her mom Linda Protovin, with years of decor and entertaining experience, finally created an eco- friendly custom card box that was simple, elegant, and understated while still corresponding with the wedding colors and theme. Marni came to the wedding and party business in a slightly different way than many. Marni is a trained singer and experienced voice teacher who studied opera and musical theater in college and graduated with a Bachelor’s degree in Music Performance from the University of Central Florida. Marni’s performance career took her to Germany, England and Italy, where she was inspired to share her passion for music through teaching.

 

Wedding Portraits! September 17, 2010

Filed under: Photography Week,Uncategorized — The New Indian Wife @ 1:26 pm

TNIB is simply ecstatic to feature photographer Jigar Champaneria of San Francisco based Samay Studio (www.samaystudio.com) this week.  His expert insights continue today with fabulous tips to ensure your wedding day portraits are AH-MAY-ZING!

TNIB: What is the biggest challenge in taking great portraits of the bride and groom?

Jigar: Time…or lack thereof!  Most Indian weddings last from morning until night and there is something going on the ENTIRE time! Even while taking portraits, many couples stress about their agenda, whether they look their best and whether everyone who is supposed to be in the photos are there on-time.

TNIB: What can couples do to stress less about time?

Jigar: Here are some suggestions that will help.  First, set aside enough time for both formal portraits with your closest family and bridal  party.  Also be sure to set aside time for romantic couple’s portraits. It is not tough to get formal portraits of everyone in 30 minutes or less especially when it is before the baraat begins.  However, if in addition you want relaxed, natural portraits, set aside some extra time and make sure you get away from all your family and friends. I suggest a private location on-site or somewhere nearby the venue. Keep in mind that it will be tough for you to just flip a switch between formal and romantic portraits. Work on this plan with your photographer in advance and they will likely find great spots nearby and ensure you do not get delayed for the rest of your agenda. Plus they will help plan things such that you can relax from the stress of the family portraits (and yes, posing and smiling through 50 family photos will be tiring so try to make the most of it and have some fun).  Also be sure talk to your guests before and after your portraits and everyone will walk away smiling and more relaxed!

TNIB: What time of day is best for portraits?

Jigar: Take your wedding portraits before your ceremony.  Taking your portraits after your ceremony generally means you do not look your freshest. You may have a messy tikka on your forehead, you may have several pounds of garlands around your neck. Even if you clean up the tikka and remove the garlands, your make-up and clothes will not be like they were in the morning. I had a bride on the verge of fainting in the afternoon heat so we had to cut the portrait session short and let her sit down and re-hyrdate. Above and beyond all of this, note that morning and sunset light is much better than mid-day afternoon sun. Keeping away from the mid-day sun alone will help you look your best.

TNIB: Should someone be assigned to manage the portrait schedules with family?

Jigar: If you plan for lots of group portraits, then yes have someone organize it on the day-of. Some brides go to the extent of giving numbers to each family group so they line up next to the mandap. Even if you organize things to this extent, someone still needs to be running this show.  Hand this responsibility to your cousin, friend, or even the photographer.  A good photographer can keep things running smoothly without making anyone feel rushed.

TNIB: Does the heavy wedding garb worn by Indian couples help or hinder portrait pictures?

Jigar: The heavy jewelry and garb that most Indians wear on their wedding day is what makes the day so special. As a photographer, it’s my job to make sure those details look amazing in your portraits. I will pose the couple to specifically show off how stunning they look on their wedding day. Plus, I personally love it when a bride tells me something special about her lengha or sari. I remember that detail and try to show that off in the portraits.

In case you missed it, Jigar was the contributing photographer to TNIB all week long! Catch his previous insights here http://thenewindianbride.com/category/photography-week/ Oh and if you didn’t figure it out, he is married to another TNIB featured guest , upcoming cupcake artist Radha Champaneria http://thenewindianbride.com/2010/08/30/sweet-week/!

 

Using Your Wedding Photos September 16, 2010

Filed under: Photography Week,Uncategorized — The New Indian Wife @ 2:44 pm

Photography week continues on TNIB today with tips on how to use your wedding photos.  Your photographer clicked 1000 plus images of you and your loved one on your wedding day.  You probably framed some for your home, your parents, the in-laws, maybe even Grandma and Grandpa.  But now what?  You have amazing pictures of your wedding day and not a clue how to use them.  Well, TNIB is here to help.  Photography week continues today with tips on how to use those wedding photos.  Can you say SCRAPBOOK? 

You can of course work with your wedding photographer  to create a wedding album or as TNIB suggested yesterday you could DIY on the wedding album.  It’s a big job but if you have the time and are keen to save on the photography budget it is a doable option. 

If you are a more creative couple, you could use your wedding album to create a scrapbook.  A scrapbook allows you to capture not only your amazing wedding photographs but also other momentos and cherished treasures from your wedding day.  Your scrapbook can be as complicated or simple as you like.  Your only limitation is your own creativity!  For example, you may include pictures of you and a special family member along with the wedding card/letter they sent to you.  You could keep a picture of the priest alongside a print out of the particular hymns which were sung.   You may have other treasures that you want to keep – monogrammed cocktail napkins, dried flowers from your centerpiece, one of the bangles you wore, a crystal that fell of your dress or other physical items from your wedding that you want to keep and look back upon for years to come. A scrapbook is a great way keeping these memorable treasures!

 

DIY Wedding Albums September 15, 2010

Filed under: Photography Week,Uncategorized — The New Indian Wife @ 12:32 pm

Photography week continues today with DIY wedding albums.  Whether you hired a professional wedding photographer or solicited the help of trusted friends or family to snap images of your special days, more and more couples are considering creating their own wedding album as way to save on overall photography costs.  Jigar Champaneria of Samay Studio Photography is back on TNIB to give his expert photography tips on making your own album! While he advises letting the pros do the job there are some key things to think about if you do it yourself and when you collaborate with your photographer on the final product. The DIY brides are going to love these fabulous suggestions!

TNIB: What options are available to couples who want to create their own wedding albums?

Jigar: Let me first step back and say that making your own elegant wedding album is not as simple a task as you might think. If you choose this route to save money, be ready to spend a LOT of time to get your album looking just like you want. For my clients, I typically use Adobe Photoshop and start from scratch including selecting photos, adding embellishments, backgrounds, and the like, but there are a number of professional-level tools available to ensure the best layouts. If you want to make your own album and you don’t have experience with Photoshop or InDesign, then it’s best to use a bookmaker which offers software to help you layout your photos into pages. Blurb, Shutterfly, and MyPublisher are common consumer options. AdoramaPix (www.andoramapix.com) also offers some options and they print on actual photo paper rather than thinner paper which can easily tear. If you are on a Mac, there are also some tricks to lay out your book using the cool templates found in iPhoto and then saving money by using other vendors like AdoramaPix or Blurb to do the actual printing.

I can’t re-iterate enough though that going this route will require dozens of hours of effort on your part, so be prepared to spend a lot of time in front of your computer!

TNIB: There are so many photos. Where do I begin?

Jigar:  If your photographer has not done so already, organize your folders into themes based on your wedding day – getting ready, baraat, entrance, main ceremony, candids, portraits, etc. Once organized, you can review your photos in small chunks rather than having to scroll through 1,000 plus photos every time you want to find a photo.

TNIB: How do I know which photos to pick?

Jigar: Fewer photos are better. Don’t feel bad if you can’t squeeze in a photo of every single uncle, auntie, and cousin into your album. Your wedding album is YOUR album, not theirs.

In terms of selecting specific photos, you should pick what you are most emotionally tied to, but also photos that help tell the story of your wedding day. Pick a few photos of your sari or lengha, a few of your bouquet and decorations, and a mix of candid and posed photos. If you do this, you’ll find that album feels more like a story rather than just a mish-mash of 4×6 photos.

TNIB: How many photos should I pick?

Jigar: A 10×10 album will look cramped if it has, on average, more than four photos per page. A 12×12 album will look cramped with more than five photos per page. That doesn’t sound like much, but from experience, couples are most pleased with no more than three photos per page!  

Think of your album in two page spreads. When you open a book, you can see just two pages at a time so select your photos trying to group them based on the two pages together. If you plan to have four photos per page, then a two page spread should have just eight photos based on the themes you created. Pick eight photos from the baraat and no more. If you would like for your ceremony to spread across six pages, then pick twenty-four photos from the ceremony and no more.

TNIB: Final thoughts?

Jigar: Be prepared to spend a LOT of time laying out your album to your liking…WAY more than you expect!

If you missed it, Jigar was featured on TNIB yesterday with tips on how to get the best wedding photographs. Revisit that post at http://thenewindianbride.com/2010/09/14/photography-week-at-tnib/.  You can follow him at www.facebook.com/samaystudio or www.twitter.com/jigarchamp or check out his website at www.samaystudio.com.

 

Photography Week at TNIB! September 14, 2010

Filed under: Photography Week,Uncategorized,Vendors — The New Indian Wife @ 11:30 am

When the ladoos are all gone, the bridal lengha is packed away and the mehndi has faded all that will be left are the fabulous memories of your wedding day.  Hiring a photographer that meets your aesthetic is the easy part.  The harder part is ensuring the photographer you selected is able to capture all the special moments of your big day.  Which is why I couldn’t be more excited to have San Francisco Bay Area wedding photographer Jigar Champaneria of Samay Studio Photography offer his expert insight!  Brides – you are going to love Jigar’s fabulous tips!

TNIB: As a photographer, what should the Bride and Groom share that helps you photograph a wedding?

Jigar: Besides the events of the day, talk to your photographer about what is important or what you are worried about.  If there are two traditions (i.e. Gujarati and Tamil) in the wedding how are you blending the two? Was there any tension in combing events? Let your photographer know about this since it can help to focus on certain aspects of the wedding or conversely, stay away from photographing other aspects.

Do you have any surprises planned for the day? Many couples like to surprise guests with a choreographed dance.  If this is something you have planned make sure your photographer knows about it so they can be ready to capture the surprised looks on your guests’ faces.

TNIB: Should you communicate details you would like captured?

Jigar: Yes, let your photographer know about specific things you want extra attention paid to.  Are you totally into your shoes? Let your photographer know about how cool your shoes are so they know it’s something they should spend extra time on.

TNIB: Should the couple creat a short list of the specific photos they want?

Jigar: Many photographers say they hate it when their clients give them a “shot list” where the bride is demanding a certain set of photos from throughout the day. But I think it helps to spend time going over some of the most important moments for you and even some examples of photos you have loved from other weddings. This isn’t a formal shot list, but it helps to ensure that you and your photographer are on the same page.

TNIB: Is it important to select a style of photography for the wedding day?

Jigar: No matter how much you might want candid, photojournalistic style photos, you are going to want some wonderful portraits. These portraits are typically what you and your parents will have enlarged.  So set aside time for a private portrait session in your wedding and reception attire. For wedding portraits, don’t just plan for post-ceremony photos at the mandap – try to take some wedding portraits before the ceremony so you look fresh.

TNIB: Any final thoughts?

Jigar: Try to add fun and special moments to your day that can lead to special photographs. How about a “First Look” before your wedding portraits? It really is a special moment when you see your fiance for the first time all decked out in their wedding attire. Why not capture that first glimpse of each other during a private moment rather than as the wedding ceremony starts? 

Also, in addition to your wedding coordinator, your photographer is the key person to help keep your schedule on track. Make sure you let your photographer know about your detailed agenda. A great photographer will politely help you to stay on time.

About Jigar: Jigar has been a lifelong, mostly self-taught photographer. Based out of the San Francisco Bay Area, Jigar has been a professional wedding photographer for six years. In addition to weddings and family portrait photography, he has a passion for helping others to improve their photography so he leads informal workshops focusing on different aspects of the craft.  See more of Jigar’s work at www.SamayStudio.com, www.facebook.com/samaystudio and follow him on Twitter at www.twitter.com/jigarchamp.

 

Always a Silver Lining September 10, 2010

Filed under: Uncategorized — The New Indian Wife @ 11:44 am

Yesterday I wrote about my disappointment with my wedding DVD.  Today I write with complete excitement about my makeup artist Frances from The Savvy Face.  She is launching her website soon and I am thrilled to learn that I am part of the portfolio of brides she features!  Here is a sneak peak at her site – http://thesavvyface.com/.  You better believe we will be featuring makeup tips from Frances soon!

Why focus on the less than perfect wedding DVD when there are so many great things happening right now! Besides, I am hopeful the wedding DVD will be perfected. Fingers crossed!

Writing The New Indian Bride is opening so many doors. Not only am I being featured on The Savvy Bride’s website but I also wrote an article for Shaadi Karoge an Indian dating website, I have been asked to be a contributing writer to numerous Indian Wedding blogs (stay tuned for updates on that!), I am starting the process of writing my first book and launching a non-profit related to weddings.  I am so grateful for all the wonderful writing opportunities emerging.  I always wanted to write and make a difference. TNIB has given me a wonderful platform to do just that!

I will be writing away all weekend long so get ready for more fabulous posts next week!  Until then, I wish all my readers a fabulous weekend!

 

Wedding DVD Debacle September 9, 2010

Filed under: Uncategorized — The New Indian Wife @ 12:17 pm

I am usually full of wedding inspirations but today I share some major post wedding disappointment…

When I saw the USPS box from the videographer at my doorstep I was literally jumping for joy! 

Growing up I was fascinated by the wedding videos of friends and family.  I loved reliving each and every moment of the wedding from seeing the details, the outfits, the tears, the smiles and all the aunties and uncles showcasing their bhangra and bollywood moves.  My love of wedding DVD’s is why I hired one of LA’s best videographers.  She specializes in Indian weddings, her work was exemplary (even inspiring!), she came highly recommended by a friend who is a wedding planner and is regularly featured on Indian wedding blogs for her stellar work.  I was confident that the price we were paying would be well worth the result. 

When I saw the package on my doorstep, I grabbed the DVDs, ran in the house, put on my PJ’s, made a hot cuppa chai, jumped into a comfy spot on my couch and popped in the DVD as fast I could.  I simply could not wait to relive the happiest day of my entire life.

My excitement faded in seconds as the saddest music I ever heard started to ooze from my television set.  The background music to the chapter headers is the saddest, most depressing shennai instrumental.  It sounds like one is about to watch a DVD of someone dying than of someone getting married.

The lackluster editing continues from there.  There is one camera focused solely on the giannis (priests) the entire time and the bulk of the wedding ceremony is of that shot.  Given the angle it looks more like a surveillance video at a 7-11.  There is not a bride in the entire universe who wants the cameras focused on the priests throughout wedding.  I want to see the happy couple, our parents, our families, our guests! There are very few shots of the guests or of our families unless they were sitting immediately behind us.  The “highlight” of the entire DVD is the camera falling during the ceremony.  Yes, the camera fell.  Isn’t it the videographers job to hold the camera steady?  But let’s say for some unforseen reason the camera does fall during the ceremony, I would expect that portion would be edited.  Not in my DVD.  Instead of cutting to the second camera they left the camera falling and eventually being caught in the final footage. The result is a very wabbly image of My Leading Man and I at the final laavan (and some images of the carpet where the camera fell).

My complaints continue from there.  There are shots of half eaten food, they do not capture my entrance into the jaimala, the footage of the speeches is to close to the speaker’s faces, and the list goes on and on.

Needless to say the results are amateur, unprofessional and the editing is completely rushed.  Not at all what I would expect from such a reputable company that specializes in Indian weddings.  There isn’t a bride I know who would want a wedding DVD like this.

I have a call out to the company and I am hopeful there will agree to re-edit. 

Stay tuned!

 

Shaadi Ki Mittai September 2, 2010

Filed under: Sweet Week,Uncategorized — The New Indian Wife @ 12:26 pm

You can have cakes, cupcakes or any kind of dessert at your wedding but an Indian wedding is simply not complete without mittai.  Indian sweets are a critical component of any Indian celebration, especially a wedding!  There are so many sweet Indian treats to choose from – ladoo, barfi, halva, Balushahi, cham cham, gajar ka halwa, garhi, gulab jaman, jalebi, shahi tukra, shrikhand just to name a few! The names may be hard to roll of your tongue but the tastes will satiate every sugar lover and have your mouth yearning for more!

The most popular wedding mittai is the ladoo.  This sweet treat is often prepared during festivals and weddings.   Ladoos come in a gajillion varieties!  There commonality is that it is prepared with some type of flour and look like little balls of heaven.  Why ladoos are associated with weddings is something this New Indian Bride was not able to figure out.  My guess is serving ladoos in large quantities is an expensive and time consuming so it could only historically make its appearance on special occasions.  Its beautiful orange color also makes it appear festive and auspicious.

For our wedding, eighty pounds of mittai came straight from Punjab.  That’s right, we flew in our mittai (or rather it hitched a ride in my Masi’s suitcases).  It not only worked out cheaper that way but the tastes were exquisite and authentic! 

 

 
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