The New Indian Bride

A bride-to-be with a new perspective on the modern Indian wedding.

The Grand Finale: Doli & Dinner June 24, 2010

Filed under: Uncategorized,Wedding Events — The New Indian Wife @ 10:03 am

After being Pretty in Pink and dazling at our daytime wedding, our nearest and dearest gathered once again to bid us farewell at the Doli & Dinner.  This was a small gathering of family and friends back at the house the evening of the wedding.  Most reminants of the previous night’s pinkness were gone, and the event turned into a casual affair in our backyard. 

The New Indian Bride was not casually dressed at the Doli & Dinner.  Instead of jeans and a sweatshirt (which was what I really wanted to wear after eight hours in my lengha),  I dressed in a red sari and gold jewels, both hand picked by My Leading Man.  My Leading Man wore a navy blue Hugo Boss suit with a white shirt, open collar.  This might have been my favorite look of the entire wedding.  Studly in all his casualness!

I wanted the Doli & Dinner to take on the look and feel of an American style rehersal dinner.  I wanted it to be light hearted, relaxing and fun.  To acheive this feeling, we played a few games in front of our guests.  For one of the games, My Leading Man was blind folded and presented five hands to shake.  He had to guess which hand was mine.  Among the hands to select from were my 70 year old Bhuji, my 17 year old neice and my 40 something Masi.  My Leading Man detected my hand right away although he did hesitate with my Masi’s hand, understandably so since our hands are very similar! 

After enjoying Italian food from Antonino’s www.antoninosrestaurant.net (a refreshing change after two days of curries and masalas) and after My Leading Man presented my sister with her diamond and ruby kalichiri (which she loved!)  it was time for My Leading Man and I to depart. 

My mother-in-law draped me with a red duppatta.  I threw rice over my shoulders as I left my family’s home so it would always be full and prosperous.  The path from our front door to the Groom’s car was lined with our friends and family holding sparklers. 

It was a simple and fun touch to our simple, elegant and personable wedding day. 

Here are a few pictures our sparkling departure.

 

A Picture is Worth a Thousand Words June 20, 2010

Filed under: Uncategorized,Wedding Events — The New Indian Wife @ 10:25 am

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Venue: Scripps College

Caterer: Tangy Tomato

Rentals: Gourmet Gourmet

Florist: Cupid’s Arrow

Facilitator: An Affaire of the Heart

DJ: Dr Manu Uberoi

Officiant: Giani Jaswant Singh

Detail Masters: Rani Masi & Pinky Aunty

 

Paisley Here! Paisley There! Paisley Everywhere! June 2, 2010

Filed under: Uncategorized,Wedding Events — The New Indian Wife @ 10:12 am

Paisley on the cake. Paisley on the cookies. Paisley on the invitation and paisley for decor.  There were paisleys everywhere on Sunday as one of my favorite Aunts hosted a beautiful bridal shower in my honor. 

There were games.  There were songs.  There were paisleys.  But most importantly (and most devoured by the guests) there was food!  We enjoyed delicious treats likes scones, chocolate covered strawberries, mittai, a delicious paisley covered cake, handmade chocolates, cookies, sandwiches, salads, chaat, dahi vaada, samosas and soooooo much more. I fell off the diet for the day but no diet is worth keeping when this many mouth-watering treats are in front of your eyes!

It was a beautiful event!   

 A thousand thank yous to the host (who I know is an avid New Indian Bride reader!)

 

Simple. sim·ple. sim-puhl. May 23, 2010

Filed under: Simple,Wedding Events — The New Indian Wife @ 7:58 am

Definition:

1. easy to understand, deal with, use, etc.

2. not elaborate or artificial; plain.

3. not ornate or luxurious; unadorned.

4. unaffected; unassuming; modest.

5. not complicated, complex or compound.

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From the beginning I had one goal in mind.  A simple, more streamlined Indian wedding.  Make it easy for the guests to attend. Make it easy for us to host.  Make it easy for everyone to enjoy.

Indian weddings are like the Energizer Bunny – they last and last.  There are girl side functions and boy side functions.  There are bridal showers and bachelorette parties.  There are gifts to be purchased and given over and over again.  Oh and who can forget that samosa that reappears wherever you go.

For your guests, that means new outifts for each event.  Don’t forget coordinating shoes, purses and makeup for the ladies! For the hosts, that means more caterers to hire and more creative menus to conspire.

We laugh.

We dance.

We sing.

We enjoy. 

We also get tired.

Are the whirlwinds of weddings past flashing in front of your eyes?  Before the visions of mittaibhangra and colorful saris has you in an Indian wedding coma, let’s close our eyes…

Take a deep breathe.

Slowly exhale.

Now open your eyes to what I see… 

An Indian wedding that lasts only two days and consist of just two events. Yup that’s it.  Two events. 24 hours.  Then you are free to continue your regular everyday life. 

I hope (I can almost promise but I have two lawyers in the family and they have advised me not to) that this shorter version of the Indian wedding will still be a fun and memorable event. 

How can I be so sure?  Because no matter how simple or how grand the affair, a wedding is about two people starting a life together surounded by those they love (plus 10 to 15 uncles and aunties who no one knows.)

Post Script 1: In the interest of full disclosure, I am having mehndi ceremony.  I am not counting it as an official event since there will be only 15-20 people in attendance. For an Indian wedding, that equates to the number of people  I will be sharing a bathroom with at my house.   I am also having a Doli ceremony the night of the wedding (stay tuned for future posts).  That too is a smaller more intimate event with our closest relatives.

Post Script 2: If you are reading this and had a long wedding that I attended, please know that I loved your wedding and enjoyed each and every minute of it.  Really, I did!

 

 
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